Social media in the world today makes it very easy for ex significant others to ‘stalk’ one another. After reading ‘Why I Stopped Stalking My Ex On FB‘ it is easy to see how even if a couple separates, they can still feel their ‘cyber presence’. Rachel Kramer Bussel had said that after the split between her and her boyfriend, “even though I wasn’t communicating with him, I was still communing with his cyber presence”. It is clear that social media, such as Facebook, can make a break up much harder simply because of the constant reminder of the person.
Rachel describes her Facebook stalking as an “emotionally safe way of keeping up with him”. The reality of this is that by stalking her ex boyfriend’s Facebook, Rachel had said that she felt as if the logical part of her had disappeared. What made Rachel realize that she could no longer go on stalking her ex’s social media, was when a photo of his new fiancé’s engagement ring popped up on her news feed. This incident had led Rachel to end her obsession of stalking, and continue her life without knowing every detail of her ex’s life.
This article can be very relatable for myself and other college students. Personally, I have experienced a bad break up that resulted in some social media stalking. The reality is, when a break up occurs, most of the time you become curious and want to see how the other person is doing. Unfortunately, it can become quite emotional to see certain things on social media, for example, Rachel seeing the engagement ring. If a break up happens, it happened for a reason. Therefore, it should be left alone, and the stalking should be kept to a minimum, if it is necessary at all.